What is sexual napalm? Inside John Mayer and Jessica Simpson’s Explosive Relationship
With Taylor Swift once again bringing John Mayer’s name to a new spin, which many assume he’ll be talking about when she drops her “Call Her Daddy” interview, fans may naturally find themselves delving into Mayer’s alleged history of toxic behavior in relationships.
Specifically, many may be wondering what exactly happened between Mayer and Jessica Simpson.
Allow us to fill in your details…
In 2010, John Mayer’s interview with Playboy created a stir when he discussed his relationship with Jessica Simpson, whom he dated from 2006-2007.
While asked about the paparazzi stalking him and turning him into a “tabloid party” when they were dating, he revealed that, in his words, he is “addicted” to Simpson.
“It wasn’t as direct as I said, ‘I’m now choosing to bring the paparazzi into my life.’ I really said, ‘I’m now choosing to sleep with Jessica Simpson.'” That was stronger than my desire to stay out of the paparazzi’s eyes. That girl to me is her. Drugs. And drugs aren’t good for you if you do too much of it. Yeah, that girl is like crack cocaine to me… Sexually it was crazy. That’s all I’ll say. It was like napalm, sexual napalm,” he said.
You may ask what is sexual napalm?
Well, Meyer seems to be defining further by going on and on about how someone’s sexual addiction is similar to the physical addiction to a particular drug.
At one time you sold your couch, mine, and whatever else for another, if that was what was needed.
You go through the pain of withdrawal when you’re away, and you crave a very specific, intensely visceral high. Perhaps your brain is making physical changes and these changes can be accessed later by smell, taste, sound or memory.
The term “napalm” generally mentions the following: “a ghastly, sticky burn,” “deforestation,” “scorched earth,” and “charlie.” It rarely brings back memories or petty feelings about past sex scenes.
But the idea of being metaphorically burned by a sexual relationship, in a way that’s not entirely negative, resonates.
Think about your first violent sexual relationship, especially if the other person was incredibly eager to please.
Now try and remember: does this relationship really consist of more than just sleeping, eating, and having sex? Didn’t it have a future, but you didn’t know how to end it?
Napalm might not be the best word to describe a situation like this, but it’s not 100% inappropriate.
Now, while Meyer may have gleefully told the world he had an “addiction” to Jessica Simpson, she was noticeably upset at the time.
Speaking to Oprah, Simpson said, “I tried to read the article and I was… I was so disappointed in it… It made me so sad. And it was really frustrating because this isn’t the John I knew.”
It took her another 10 years before Simpson finally revealed her side of the story.
Simpson’s memoir, “Open Book,” was released on February 4, 2020. In it, she revealed some incredibly shocking anecdotes.
Not only did she discuss her abuse as a child, but she also opened up about her toxic relationship with Mayer and how that influence led her to drinking and drugs.
After her divorce from Nick Lachey in 2005, she began dating other men, and Mayer began writing her notes.
However, according to Simpson,[Mayer] He wanted me to have it all or nothing… He’d walk into a room and pick up his guitar and you’d faint. I didn’t really know the man behind the guitar. And that was my mission.”
When they began dating in 2006, she “fell in love with his intensity,” adding, “Over and over, he told me he was obsessed with me both sexually and romantically.”
Simpson says she began to feel insecure with Mayer, noting that while the two had broken up several times, the eventual break was not easy.
In a recent interview with Hoda Kotb for the Today show, Simpson revealed that she’s dated Meyer nine times!
Simpson attributes her spiral turn to drinking and drugs, at least in part, to her fear of losing Mayer and the insecurities she developed during their relationship.
She revealed, “My anxiety was rising and I was going to pour another drink. It was the beginning of me relying on alcohol to hide my nerves.”
She says much of her anxiety began when she was sexually abused as a child, and she chose substances to numb that pain.
Fortunately, Simpson’s diary details the upward journey she took to get to where she is today.
she added,[Mayer] He loved me the way he could, and I’ve had that love for a very long time. Very long. And I went back and forth with him for a long time. But he controlled me.”
After meeting Mayer on Playboy, Simpson cut off all contact with him.
“He thought that was what I wanted to be called. I was embarrassed and embarrassed because my grandmother would have read that already… Women and how they are in bed is not something that gets talked about at all. It was shocking… He was the most loyal person On this planet and when I read he wasn’t, that was it for me. I wiped his number. It made it easier for me to leave.”
Sharing his opinion of Simpson’s book, Meyer told Bravo’s Andy Cohen he probably would never read it.
“I’ve heard about it,” Meyer said. “I’ve heard a few things.” But as Pee Wee Herman says in “Pee Wee’s Big Adventure” before the movie of his life comes out at the end, he doesn’t watch the movie and the reason he doesn’t watch the movie is, he says, “I don’t have to watch Dottie, I lived it.” That’s prescient here.”
It’s been nearly a decade and a half since the exes dated, and Simpson has a life and family of her own.
Simpson is married to soccer player Eric Johnson, whom she married in 2014. They have three children.
Tom Miller is a writer and artist based in Los Angeles. He was a mechanical engineer and banker, and now he’s the general manager and video producer coordinator at YourTango.
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